"You have to put your past behind you." "Put your behind in your past." "Learn from the past." These are lessons we have grown up hearing. But you know, it's one that is easier said than done. I am a history person - someone who believes that you have to learn from your past in order to move forward. But I'm also someone who believes that you can know nearly everything there is to know about a person if you know where they came from and how they got to now. Your past defines you. As much as we try to put it behind us because of the painful parts there, it is a part of us and it changes the way we look at everything in our future. Never trust someone who doesn't understand that your past is who you are - because your past entirely defines you. It defines you in such a way that logic won't get you out of it. Now, I would like to apologize to anyone who has had to deal with me - with my past. But at the same time, it's who I am. Part of growing up is learning that and then constantly dealing with the past as it flares in our faces yet again - as old fears crop up, consequences of old decisions reveal themselves, and happiness surfaces.
Be honest. Be honest with those people who have to deal with this. Be honest about your fears - don't let them define your present. It's hard to open up and trust new people, but sometimes that is the best thing you can do. History will only repeat itself if you let it - if you aren't honest and your try to run from it.
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